Qi Kung for men

I was recently chatting to a neighbour who began to discuss her elderly husband and how difficult he is becoming to live with as he enters his elderly 80’s.

In her experience, he was becomg very stubborn, not wearing his hearing aids or showing a willingness to have the aids or his hearing checked by the audiologist at his local hospital…. refusing help with the Cash dispenser and forgetting his pass number to access funds…etc etc

Pride, he is a very proud man, brought up in a period of time where men were not encouraged to share their emotions, to cry openly …and to man up if they did, to be vulnerable and fragile… They were not allowed or encouraged to show ‘weakness’ in any shape or form.

We are very aware that men are far less likely to visit a Doctor with an ailment than women…’They cannnot be ill’,perhaps ancesterally they may be carrying the energy of ‘who will pay the bills and finance their family if they succumb to illness?’…particularly before the advent of the NHS in this country

Thankfully now, more and more men are opening to the spiritual aspect of their Being…seeking out complemenatry therapies and ways to care for themselves…with for example, energies such as practising and immersing themselves in Qi Kung

My colleague and friend Alessandro has breen practising Qi Kung for many years and is dedicating time to offer support to men, Thank you…

Please find below links to Alessandro’s website and a Video he has recently produced aimed at men and men’s health:


There is an incredibly Benevolent force…Unconditional love..

A poignant and beautiful clip from the film American Beauty..
“There is this entire life behind things, and this incredibly benevolent force
….wanted me to know there was no reason to be afraid. Ever.”


Love your Self


An inspiring and beautiful Soul

An inspiring story… from the compassion and willingness of the donor’s parents, the expertise of the surgeons and their assistants,to the joy of Zion’s mother and her fear that Zion will no longer need her and her willingness to let him go and grow…and to Zion and his words of wisdom

An Interesting article on Happiness

A very interesting article on Happiness by  Cornelia H. Dudley Professor of Psychology, Knox College

In the 1990s, a psychologist named Martin Seligman led the positive psychology movement, which placed the study of human happiness squarely at the center of psychology research and theory. It continued a trend that began in the 1960s with humanistic and existential psychology, which emphasized the importance of reaching one’s innate potential and creating meaning in one’s life, respectively.

Since then, thousands of studies and hundreds of books have been published with the goal of increasing well-being and helping people lead more satisfying lives.

So why aren’t we happier? Why have self-reported measures of happiness stayed stagnant for over 40 years?

Perversely, such efforts to improve happiness could be a futile attempt to swim against the tide, as we may actually be programmed to be dissatisfied most of the time.

You can’t have it all

Part of the problem is that happiness isn’t just one thing.

Jennifer Hecht is a philosopher who studies the history of happiness. In her book “The Happiness Myth,” Hecht proposes that we all experience different types of happiness, but these aren’t necessarily complementary. Some types of happiness may even conflict with one another. In other words, having too much of one type of happiness may undermine our ability to have enough of the others – so it’s impossible for us to simultaneously have all types of happiness in great quantities.

For example, a satisfying life built on a successful career and a good marriage is something that unfolds over a long period of time. It takes a lot of work, and it often requires avoiding hedonistic pleasures like partying or going on spur-of-the-moment trips. It also means you can’t while away too much of your time spending one pleasant lazy day after another in the company of good friends.

On the other hand, keeping your nose to the grindstone demands that you cut back on many of life’s pleasures. Relaxing days and friendships may fall by the wayside.

As happiness in one area of life increases, it’ll often decline in another.

A rosy past, a future brimming with potential

This dilemma is further confounded by the way our brains process the experience of happiness.

By way of illustration, consider the following examples.

We’ve all started a sentence with the phrase “Won’t it be great when…” (I go to college, fall in love, have kids, etc.). Similarly, we often hear older people start sentences with this phrase “Wasn’t it great when…”

Think about how seldom you hear anyone say, “Isn’t this great, right now?”

Surely, our past and future aren’t always better than the present. Yet we continue to think that this is the case.

These are the bricks that wall off harsh reality from the part of our mind that thinks about past and future happiness. Entire religions have been constructed from them. Whether we’re talking about our ancestral Garden of Eden (when things were great!) or the promise of unfathomable future happiness in HeavenValhallaJannah or Vaikuntha, eternal happiness is always the carrot dangling from the end of the divine stick.

There’s evidence for why our brains operate this way; most of us possess something called the optimistic bias, which is the tendency to think that our future will be better than our present.

To demonstrate this phenomenon to my classes, at the beginning of a new term I’ll tell my students the average grade received by all students in my class over the past three years. I then ask them to anonymously report the grade that they expect to receive. The demonstration works like a charm: Without fail, the expected grades are far higher than one would reasonably expect, given the evidence at hand.

And yet, we believe.

Cognitive psychologists have also identified something called the Pollyanna Principle. It means that we process, rehearse and remember pleasant information from the past more than unpleasant information. (An exception to this occurs in depressed individuals who often fixate on past failures and disappointments.)

For most of us, however, the reason that the good old days seem so good is that we focus on the pleasant stuff and tend to forget the day-to-day unpleasantness.


Self-delusion as an evolutionary advantage?

These delusions about the past and the future could be an adaptive part of the human psyche, with innocent self-deceptions actually enabling us to keep striving. If our past is great and our future can be even better, then we can work our way out of the unpleasant – or at least, mundane – present.

All of this tells us something about the fleeting nature of happiness. Emotion researchers have long known about something called the hedonic treadmill. We work very hard to reach a goal, anticipating the happiness it will bring. Unfortunately, after a brief fix we quickly slide back to our baseline, ordinary way-of-being and start chasing the next thing we believe will almost certainly – and finally – make us happy.

My students absolutely hate hearing about this; they get bummed out when I imply that however happy they are right now – it’s probably about how happy they will be 20 years from now. (Next time, perhaps I will reassure them that in the future they’ll remember being very happy in college!)

Nevertheless, studies of lottery winners and other individuals at the top of their game – those who seem to have it all – regularly throw cold water on the dream that getting what we really want will change our lives and make us happier. These studies found that positive events like winning a million bucks and unfortunate events such as being paralyzed in an accident do not significantly affect an individual’s long-term level of happiness.

Assistant professors who dream of attaining tenure and lawyers who dream of making partner often find themselves wondering why they were in such a hurry. After finally publishing a book, it was depressing for me to realize how quickly my attitude went from “I’m a guy who wrote a book!” to “I’m a guy who’s only written one book.”

But this is how it should be, at least from an evolutionary perspective. Dissatisfaction with the present and dreams of the future are what keep us motivated, while warm fuzzy memories of the past reassure us that the feelings we seek can be had. In fact, perpetual bliss would completely undermine our will to accomplish anything at all; among our earliest ancestors, those who were perfectly content may have been left in the dust.

This shouldn’t be depressing; quite the contrary. Recognizing that happiness exists – and that it’s a delightful visitor that never overstays its welcome – may help us appreciate it more when it arrives.

Furthermore, understanding that it’s impossible to have happiness in all aspects of life can help you enjoy the happiness that has touched you.

Recognizing that no one “has it all” can cut down on the one thing psychologists know impedes happiness: envy.

Beautiful words from an Earth Angel

Such wise words from this little girl whose parents are divorcing…she must surely be an Earth angel.

Update from James Twyman and World Peace Meditation

Below is an update from James Twyman following the World Synchronised Peace Meditation (see previous blog post).

What a wonderful experience and a beautiful indication that this type of focussed, synchronised mediation and prayer can have a positive healing affect.

If this was offered daily, weekly or even monthly, I wonder what the long term effects would be? Peace, Harmony, recognition of our collective power as loving beings of Light and a manifestation of the I Am energy

The email from James Twyman…. 

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The Rainbow, the Battle and the Wolves
Today millions of people joined together to claim the reality of peace for all those suffering in Syria, especially the children. Three amazing things happened that I want to share with you, miracles that show us the power of our shared, focused energy and prayers.
The Rainbow
As we drove to the overlook, someone on the bus said “Look at the sky.” We looked out the window and saw a brilliant rainbow that completely circled the sun. It felt like a sign of what was to come. In an hour millions of people would join us energetically, sending their light into the situation in Syria, without judgment. The rainbow meant we were not alone.
The Battle
Hours before we arrived a battle raged just beneath where we stood. Bombs exploded and guns fired at the bottom of the hill just beyond the security fence. It seemed that we were up against more than we anticipated, but then something incredible happened. It was as if the war stopped while we joined together as one. The battle simply ceased, and remained that way through the entire meditation.
The Wolves
Over 100 people from many spiritual paths sat in silence as we were joined by you and so many others. We held that space for 15 minutes, and when I looked at the clock to end the silence, before I said a word, the sound of a single wolf howling just below us echoed through the air, then more until there were dozens of wolves that howled for exactly one minute, and then stopped. It was one of the most incredible things we ever heard.
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This is just the beginning…
In two days we will send out an email with the next step, one that will continue this incredible momentum. My goal is to gather 100,000 people into this tribe that will be ready at a moment’s notice to share their prayers of peace when a world crisis arises. Stay tuned. The fun, and the miracles, have just begun.
One Final Note

I want to thank a group of 11 individuals that showed tremendous courage, and without whom none of this would have happened. As you know, I invited a small group to join me on this adventure, becoming our “on the ground Light Team.” They were spectacular. I wish I had thanked them much more before now, but I want them to know how happy I was to have them with me. They are examples for us all.

World Synchronized Meditation
Thank you for being part of history, James Twyman Peace Troubadour

World Meditation for Peace

James Twyman a blessed brave Soul

Revolution, words of wisdom Thich Nhat Hanh

“There’s a revolution that needs to happen and it starts from inside each one of us. We need to wake up and fall in love with Earth. We’ve been homo sapiens for a long time. Now it’s time to become homo conscious  Our love and admiration for the Earth has the power to unite us and remove all boundaries, separation and discrimination. Centuries of individualism and competition have brought about tremendous destruction and alienation. We need to re-establish true communication–true communion–with ourselves, with the Earth, and with one another as children of the same mother. We need more than new technology to protect the planet. We need real community and co-operation.” 

Thich Nhat Hanh

Fountain International

The Ethos of Fountain International, in accordance with an old prophesy.

It has no fabric – only understanding.
It has no membership – save those who know that they belong.
It has no rivals – because it is non competitive.
It has no ambition because it only seeks to serve.
It knows no boundaries, for nationalisms are unloving.
It is not of itself because it seeks to enrich all groups and religions.
It acknowledges all great teachers of all ages who have shown the truth of love.
Those who participate, practice the truth of love in all their daily being.
There is no walk of life or nationality that is a barrier.
Those who are, know.
It seeks not to teach but to be, and by being, enrich.
It recognises the collectivity of all humanity and that we are all one with the One.
It recognises that the way we are may be the way of those around us, because we are that way.
It recognises that the time has come for the supreme transmutation, the ultimate alchemical act, the conscious change of the ego into a voluntary return to the whole.
It does not proclaim itself with a loud voice, but in the subtle realms of loving.
It salutes all those in the past who have blazoned the path, but paid the price.
It admits of no hierarchy or structure, for no one is greater than another.
Its members shall know each other by their deeds and being in their eyes and by no other outwardly sign, save the fraternal embrace. Each one will dedicate his or her life to the silent loving of their neighbour, and environment, and the planet, whilst carrying out their daily task, however exalted or humble.
It recognises the supremacy of the great idea which may only be accomplished if the human race practices the supremacy of love.

Fountain International http://fountaininternationalmagazine.com is an organisation that encourages groups of people to connect and send out an Intention of Peace and Healing to areas of the world in conflict. Research has shown that by taking part in this loving activity, great changes can occur…the dismantling of the Berlin Wall, reduction in conflict in war zones,lowering crime rates, positive changes in behaviour in prisons etc.

The Fountain is symbolic of the energy of Love pouring forth from the group and showering down on the chosen area. During one of the first intentions, to intend peace to Brighton after several periods of fighting and conflict amongst youths, the group of intenders decided to meet at a local fountain in a park in the centre of Brighton. Here they focussed on the energy of Unconditional Love for Brighton, not for the individuals involved in the conflict. The result, a dramatic decline in the outbursts of conflict. 

If groups of like-minded people gather together holding the intention for peace and healing for towns, cities, countries, the Earth…would we see the vibration of this planet change for the better?